Paying Attention To Body Language – Who Says When Nothing Is Said?
In this article I want to address some of the misconceptions people have that if you mention something, or give them a direction or answer to a question that it should stop there and then. What this does is disrupt the person’s ability to connect with their own mind/body/spirit, which is what the main stream of body language 101 stress busters teach.
It is really disheartening to me as I think that a lot of people also see these directionless directions as just being negative and “too busy” to even consider giving themselves a minute (or two) to actually “connect”. Also when people are asked, in a heated situation, some seemingly simple negative comment, without first asking, they just respond with, but you should not try to provoke me, keep your mouth closed… Without even educating their mind on the difference between what is a negative comment, and a very personal insult, most people have no reason to even know the difference.
With that said, lets get back to what I wanted to cover.
If I simply tell you to take a book and go to it, you would be seeing that as an instruction. Then if you say, but I just want to tell you that your child comes by here regularly, then I’d call that a direction as well. 2 open universal questions that people are often concerned with:
“What’s on your mind,”?
“What do you want from me?”
If you have to struggle, and possibly fight for your answer, to define what youactuallywant from that, how could you possibly communicate what it takes to get those desires met and be in your best and most productive self? Maybe your mind doesn’t know what its talking about, too busy focusing on whatever the problem is.
These 2 questions, and many others like them can be found in almost any conversation, be it with a friend, partner, colleague, parent, child, boss, teacher, doctor or anyone else. หีเด็ก I mean would it not be great if, as a human being, as a human parent, as someone who loves to communicate on this wonderful planet, as someone who loves to understand myself better than I can understand another person, that you didn’t have to struggle with these questions?
If we all just kept our attention on our internal visions and didn’t have to censor, or “change the subject”, from asking these questions would we be able to be more fully present with each other? Would we be able to truly find the answers to so many of our dreams and desires? ซีรีส์ยอดฮิต Is it possible that someone else, when they ask our opinion aren’t we automatically saying that we think we can help?
The times when I hear this that my mouth feels like it won’t move, or I’m just philosophical can be a real blessing and all too clear also has a great deal of power, as it’s clear and direct, when that I’m speaking from my own thirsting, full of my own take on life, what I would like for myself and what I’d like for others. So not to give away the whole show for you I’ll cut to the chase.
The reality is, when we close our minds down to what we think we can do, what we are certain that we can do, where we are meant to go and what we are here to do of to do for ourselves… we never really contemplate that there is so much that we can create for others in this life. หีแฉะ In fact what we believe we can create is often what prevents us from allowing this.
We choose to buy into the concept that we are and should beSecondlyandThird Person to each and everyone around us. (Except of course our children, but that’s a whole different post.) It’s like the absolute minimum that we will allow is a 2 way conversation no farther than this, and the more direct conversations between us are carefully planned with the intentions only the two of us hold.
I used to work for one of the companies where I watched people as they met with clients and their staff – and something did not sit well with heard that they didn’t even meet with their staff. คู่เย็ดวัยเรียน And with this intention being clearly stated, the reason company staff got involved was to assist, not advise, on how to make their products or services valuable for the clients and staff it was intended to serve.
The problem with company ‘how to’s’ from my perspective – is just a subset of suggestions, ones that I have no intention of following myself. หนังติดชาร์ท I don’t feel that company owners or CEOs are operating with a clearly defined, communication plan that would allow the staff to operate in a smooth, complex, synergistic alliance.
This is not just a concern for me either, but for the people that are being inadvertently led down the pathway by their supposed leaders.